Men's Questions

As part of the faculty at the Aesthetic Realism Foundation, I give consultations with my colleagues to men of all ages and from all walks of life. In a consultation, a man speaks with three consultants about the questions he has—about love, how to see his family, his job, why he feels angry or bored, why he can't sustain a care for things that once meant a great deal. It's always moving to see how the scientific principles of Aesthetic Realism have a man feel understood in his particularity, bring a composure and interest in life to him that are new.

The questions of men—and how Aesthetic Realism explains them—are discussed in public seminars at the Foundation. At left are links to some of the seminar papers I'm proud to have given.

And here are links to some seminar papers by colleagues of mine—Aesthetic Realism consultants—on matters that concern men most:

• Vanity Versus Happiness: Can a Man Distinguish between Them? by Ernest DeFilippis -- "I was 20 years old and in Louisville playing ball. Having had a good day at the plate that day I had a rather large sense of myself as I entered a popular night spot. I stood at the entrance checking out the girls and felt a rush when I made eye contact....I then nonchalantly made my move and proceeded to fall flat on my face. Since I was using my eyes to admire those who were admiring me, I didn't see I had been standing at the edge of a platform."


• How Much Feeling--and What Kind--Should a Man Have? by Arnold Perey -- "A man feels on the one hand that he doesn't want to have any feelings, the less the better: they're too damn complicated. I wanted to be like a rock or iron. My feelings were too up and down....On the other hand, I also felt "nothing ever happens to me"....When I heard Eli Siegel's poem, Must I Wait All My Life, or The Misery Song I felt...This is me!


• Why Are Young Men Bored? by Jeffrey Carduner -- "Throughout America there are accidents and tragedies because young people are bored and looking for excitement. There are injuries of young men on skate boards who get a dangerous thrill hanging on to buses; young men dare each other to ride on the tops of elevators; to take drugs....I learned...I had a desire, a hope to be bored, to see reality, as Mr. Siegel once described in me: 'as a sucked orange.'"